Welcome!
I'm Dr. Harriet Singelyn (pronounced sing-lin). I'm so glad you're here!
I help moms like you meet every part of themselves, and come home to who they've always been. Different than before baby, but still you.
Perfectionism told you that if you just tried harder, did more, gave more, you would finally feel like enough. It lied. Instead, you ended up burned out, buried in guilt, and so far from yourself you can barely remember what it felt like to just be you. She is still in there, and she deserves to be found.
My path to maternal mental health was both professional and deeply personal.
Clinically, I was drawn to the complexity and the stakes of this work — the way pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood can simultaneously crack a woman open and ask more of her than she has ever been asked before. I pursued specialized training in perinatal and maternal mental health because I believe that moms deserve a level of care that truly understands what they are going through.
Then I became a mom myself, and I understood it in an entirely different way.
I felt the love that was too big for my body sitting right alongside the grief of not recognizing myself. I felt the rage over spilled milk and the immense guilt that followed. I felt what it meant to fall below my own standards in every area of my life all at once, and learned how to offer myself compassion and grace for this new and wonderful stage in my life.
I share this with you not to make my story the focus, but because I want you to know something important before we ever sit across from each other: I get it. What you're feeling right now makes perfect sense — the wonder, the joy, the grief, the anxiety, the exhaustion — all of it. All parts of you make sense.
If you only take one thing away from being here, I hope it's this: you can love your baby with everything you have and still have plenty of love left over for you. That is not selfish. That is the work, and I'd be honored to walk alongside you.
Walking Alongside You
Sessions with me are warm and supportive. I want you to feel the relief of finally being able to put it all down, alongside the quiet excitement of actually doing something about it. Both can exist at the same time. In fact, that tension is often where the most meaningful work happens.
I don't tell you what to do. I don't hand you a list of solutions or push you toward an answer I've already decided on. I believe you already have the wisdom about who you are and what you need. My job is to walk alongside you and help you find your way back to it.
Think of it this way. If we were hiking through a forest together, I wouldn't be out ahead pulling you along or standing behind pushing you forward. I'd be right beside you navigating the terrain together, noticing what you notice, and trusting that you know more about this path than you think you do.
That said, I'm also practical. When coping skills and concrete tools are helpful, we use them. This work is both deep and grounded to support you on your way to feeling better.
How We Get There
The approaches I use are gentle, non-pathologizing, and deeply effective. But they ask something of you. You are not a passive recipient of this work. You are an active, courageous participant in it.
INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS THERAPY
You are not one thing. You are many: a collection of parts, each with its own voice, its own history, and its own way of trying to protect you. There is the part that feels guilty. The part that strives for perfection. The part that is grieving. The anxious part, the exhausted part, the inner child who never got what she needed. IFS helps you get to know all of these parts, not to silence them or push them away, but to understand them, befriend them, and transform through the corrective experiences that happen when they finally feel seen.
The result is not just insight. It is real, felt change.
COHERENCE
THERAPY
We all carry emotional learnings: deep, often unconscious beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world that were formed early and have been shaping our lives ever since. These learnings generate our symptoms. The anxiety, the perfectionism, the overwhelm, the depression are not random. They make sense. Coherence Therapy helps us first understand what those learnings are trying to say, and then gently unlearn them so relief isn't just intellectual, but felt in your whole self.
Together these two approaches are a powerful combination. Coherence Therapy brings clarity and understanding to your symptoms. IFS turns down their intensity while increasing your access to self-compassion. They are intuitive, complementary, and in my experience genuinely transformative.
A note on what to expect:
This work is experiential. We work with real, recent, visceral examples of what you are going through, not just talking about your life but actively working within it. Much of the unlearning and healing happens right here in the therapy room. That said, you will also practice and solidify the work beyond our sessions.
This work can be uncomfortable at times, but growth usually is. With that being said, you will never be pushed further than you are ready to go. We move at your pace, with a deep respect and understanding of your needs in treatment.
These approaches tend to work especially well for people who have a lot of self-awareness and insight but haven't yet found relief from their symptoms. If you know yourself well and are still struggling, this is for you.
These modalities are best suited for those who are ready and willing to engage in depth work.
Professional Credentials
Education & Training
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Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, California School of Professional Psychology, Alliant International University, Alhambra, California
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Master's in Clinical Psychology, California School of Professional Psychology, Alliant International University, Alhambra, California
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Bachelor of Arts in Psychology, The University of the Incarnate Word, San Antonio, Texas
Clinical Training
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Post-Doctoral Training, Deep Eddy Psychotherapy, Austin, Texas
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Pre-Doctoral APA-Accredited Internship, California State University San Marcos, California
Licensure & Authority
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Licensed Psychologist, State of Texas, License No. 39356
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PSYPACT E.Passport Authority, Mobility No. 20799
Specialized Training & Certifications
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Starting July 2026: Perinatal Mental Health Certification Training (PMH-C), Postpartum Support International
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In Progress: Coherence Therapy, Level 1
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Internal Family Systems (IFS), Level 1
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Minding the Heart, Dr. Tori Olds
Expertise
I help women in San Antonio, across Texas, and beyond with:
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Pregnancy and prenatal mental health
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Postpartum depression and anxiety (PMADs)
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Matrescence and motherhood
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Mom burnout, exhaustion, and overwhelm
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Perfectionism and anxiety
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Mom guilt, self-criticism, and self-compassion
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Loss of identity in motherhood
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People pleasing and boundary setting
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Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)
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Relational trauma and attachment patterns
A Little More About Me
Outside of the therapy room I am a reader, a reality TV enthusiast, and a somewhat ambitious home sewer. I spend as much time as I can outside — hiking, gardening, and playing with my daughter. My family, friends, and pugs keep me grounded and laughing in equal measure.
I am someone who believes deeply in creativity, play, and wonder — in leaving room for whimsy in a world that takes itself very seriously. I also believe in community, and in the responsibility each of us has to leave our corner of it a little better than we found it. That's part of why this work is so important to me.